When it's uncomfortable (or you think it will be).

Tense, awkward: there are so many ways discomfort can show up when we're setting, navigating, and maintaining boundaries.

Ugh. Sometimes, we feel vulnerable, right? We want to set a limit with someone - or we already have, they seem to have forgotten, and we need to remind them it’s there. A lot of discomfort that can come up! And that one word, discomfort, covers so many different feelings.

So, I thought I’d spend some time looking more closely at it. How might we pick it apart and understand it in a helpful way?

Last time I shared some tips that are worth revisiting if you’re exploring discomfort around setting a specific boundary and want some practical steps forward:

• Choosing your moment (is it safe? is it smart?).

• Suggested phrases.

• Going slowly and remembering self care.

There’s also this brief guide - OMG I did it! But I feel weird - which includes a simple slowing-down practice: